Juju and Finch are not bothered by the idea of bringing in another person to enhance, elevate and even complete their blissful romance.
On the premiere episode of S'jola Sonke, airing on Mzanis Magic every Sunday at 21:00, the Maboneng taxpayers illuminated viewers on their tastes. Among other things, the pair believes that polyamory is an effective catalyst for averting the possibility of infidelity in their union.
On Sunday, 16 April, the couples met a number of hot singles to mingle with. Waiting for no grass to grow, the pair took a dive into the endless possibilities brought by Tswyza into the mix.
First lesson, Finch and Juju are fearless in the way they chose the navigate the worlds of dating, sexuality and identity. While most people would afraid of making decisions that aren't palatable to mainstream culture and discourse, these two couldn't care less about public scrutiny. Quite the opposite. Says Juju, "If everyone is in a polyamorous relationship and (everyone) loves each other, I would not care about what people will say. Instead, I would make them learn that a relationship like this works."
Secondly, polyamorous relationships aren't more expensive to maintain than monogamous settings. In fact, there's a stokvel element to it all. "For me, it's a financial thing. Three salaries are better than two. Sometimes when you combine and invest together, it becomes less demanding", Finch shared.
Be bold about what you want. These two are clear about what they usually go for, and what they need in their lives.
That's not all. The fourth big lesson is certainly the importance of communication in a relationship. On S'jola Sonke, the two communicate about everything, including who they individually fancy in the villa.
For the fifth point, dive in the honest chat we had we them!
We caught up with them to chop it up on adulting, budgeting, cheating and boundaries within a polyamorous relationship;
What would make swipe right (accepting) on a dating profile?
Juju: Honesty, loyalty fun, and an outspoken person. I would swipe right at a relationship that is very open and free. The one that likes to travel and the one with no judgment. A relationship that is strong and willing to try out new things.
Finch: Before it was the body, but this was like back in the single days. I like anything with tattoos
What would make you swipe left (rejecting)?
Juju: Dishonesty is the biggest turn-off and a relationship that is not willing to try out new things would make me swipe left. The ones that talk bad about each other and don’t trust each other.
Finch: Blurry pictures
How will you deal with the social stigma of being in a polyamorous relationship?
Juju: If everyone is in a polyamorous relationship and (everyone) loves each other, I would not care about what people will say. Instead, I would make them learn that a relationship like this works.
Finch: I often feel South Africa will catch up. I am living my best life
Describe cheating in a relationship that already has more than two partners.
Juju: Not communicating and doing things behind your partner's back.
Finch: I think when there is no communication. If you wanna sleep with them without letting me know then that’s not being honest. Talk.
Will your perception of gender roles change with more partners involved?
Juju: When more partners are in a relationship, there is no gender role in a way that we will all be involved in all the roles and not have roles according to gender. We are all equal.
Finch: Poly means equal. We are all equal here and that’s my motto in life. We are all human and we should treat each other the same way. We all don’t know this s*** of life but we get through, right?
What does 'mjolo wa nyesa' mean for you?
Juju: It means a complicated relationship in a form of boredom, disagreements, cheating, and issues rising. It's trouble in paradise in mjolo. It's having to impress your partner but they’re not satisfied.
Finch: Friend , you know ne... When you meet this one person at the gym and you are like 'damn'! Or, when you are by the club and you like 'damn angikho single'. That’s why I like poly relationships, 'cause the thirst is real.
What would be the dealbreaker in a multi-partner relationship?
Juju: Feeling left out is a dealbreaker. We all need to be in the front seat or if one person loved one over the other.
Finch: When one partner is doing more than the others. Like, say you went for lunch and the one guy always spends on you two cheap skates….ahhh nahhh bro.
What's your one rule after adding a partner to the relationship?
Juju: All the discussions held about the relationship should involve every party. The same love for everyone.
Finch: Take your time.
What would be the benefit to having a multi-partner relationship?
Juju: It provides sexual fulfillment, variety, pleasure, financial benefit emotional support
Finch: For me, it's a financial thing. Three salaries are better than two. Sometimes when you combine and invest together, it becomes less demanding.
Is adulting more complicated with multi partners in a relationship?
Finch: It’s easier actually mngani. You just need an open and non-jealous partner.
Does one need a bigger budget?
Juju: Yes, definitely.
Finch: For what? No, friend, I choose my partners wisely. If you are not hot then you have to be rich ke.
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