Our Perfect Wedding: The perfect wedding speech

05 February 2015
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Wedding speeches can be funny, cute, romantic or, in the case of Sifiso in last week’s episode, heart-warming.

Holding back the tears, he gave thanks to his parents, his best man and, finally, made a promise to his wife to take care of her and always make her his first priority.

Sifiso’s speech was straight from the heart and it showed. However, if you’re not used to public speaking or writing speeches, then the thought of getting up in front of a room full of expectant faces can be more than a little daunting. So here are ten helpful tips to make sure your wedding speech goes off without a hitch.

Don’t wait until the last minute

In the days leading up to the big day, you will be busy, nervous and unable to concentrate. Make sure you give yourself enough time to prepare properly. Spend time thinking about what you want to say, gathering information and writing it all down.

You don’t have to do it alone

You’re not on your own when writing a speech. Make use of family and friends to gather information and stories about the people you’re talking about.

Talk to the other speakers

You don’t want to rehash the same things others have already covered in their speeches. Have a chat with the other speakers to make sure there is no overlap.

Less is more

The last thing you want to do is bore your audience. Keep it short, sweet and simple.

Include everyone

A best man’s speech shouldn’t focus exclusively on the groom’s drunken nights dressed as Rabubi and the father of the bride shouldn’t babble on about how beautiful his daughter is without including the groom and his side of the family. Include something for everyone.

Don’t use big words

Besides the possibilty of stumbling over your own vocabulary, if people don’t understand your joke they won’t find it funny. So don’t use a long word when a short one will do and don’t use slang that only a small group of friends will understand.


Practice makes perfect so make sure you go over your speech, preferably out loud, over and over again. You should know your speech almost by heart before you get up to speak.

Scout the location

Find out where you’ll be standing, if there is a microphone and if there is somewhere to put your notes. This should help you to avoid any nasty surprises.

Don’t rush

When the time comes, speak slowly and pause between sentences. If you rush through your speech, the guests may not catch the most important aspects.

Stay sober

By all means, have a drink to settle the nerves. But make sure you’re clear-headed enough to deliver a good speech. Once you’ve sat down, it’s party time.


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