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Hope and Lesego dish on dating — S’jola Sonke

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13 April 2023
The recently engaged lovebirds tackled the hot questions on dating, cheating, dealbreakers and more.
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On Sunday's season premiere of S'jola Sonke, Hope and Lesego's blissful relationship melted the hearts of the locals. The pair, who were smiling from ear to ear while gushing about their love, revealed that they got engaged within just two weeks of dating. As they say, you will know forever when see forever! 

What's more, theirs is the kind of romance that is not tied down by social expectations.If things go their way, Hope and Lesego's nuptial could just end up being a throuple wedding. 

Now that Twyza is introducing the couples to the hot singles in the villa, it is the perfect time for you to get to know the couples far more intimately. The pair took on the hot questions aimed at uncovering their deepest thoughts on love, relationships and dating. Dive in. 

What would make you swipe right (accepting) on a dating profile?

Hope: What will make me swipe right is someone who is honest about themselves. When it comes to sexuality, someone knows exactly what they want.

Lesego: If she’s attractive and I feel I will enjoy a conversation with her.

What would make you swipe left (rejecting)?

Hope: Someone who depends on others for their happiness. Someone who is confused and worried what others will say, and someone who has no idea what they need or want. 

Lesego: Clashing interests, and if the profile looks creepy or like a catfish.

How will you deal with the social stigma of being in a polyamorous relationship?

Hope: I'm one person who doesn't care what other people's opinions. I do what makes me happy. If it makes me sleep at night, then I go for it. It's either you like me or not. 

Lesego: I don’t really care about social stigma or critics, I care about my mental health and happiness.

Describe cheating in a relationship that already has more than two partners. 

Hope: It's about not being open. We need to understand that we are all partners. So we must trust each other at all times. If one or two people are not being open, I consider that to be cheating. 

Lesego: Cheating is flirting, having feelings for someone else without letting us know or being involved with someone else without letting us know. 

Will your perception of gender roles change with more partners involved?

Hope: My perception of gender roles won't change. I came in as who I am and I won't change because I am in a relationship. So, no changing. Stay true to yourslelf. 

Lesego: No. 

What does mjolo wa nyesa mean for you?

Hope: It's when you date someone who doesn't understand you as a person. Someone who doesn't understand you, or will want you to start changing yourself for them. It's dating a toxic person who has no idea what love is. 

Lesego: Being cheated on, not being happy about things you can’t control in your relationship, and wishing to add a 3rd party to your relationship but your partner refuses

What would be the dealbreaker in a multi-partner relationship?

Hope: For me, it's someone who will think I am a man... who won't respect my sexuality. 

Lesego: No lies. I can always tell if you have an involvement elsewhere romantically, even if it’s a fling.

A person who is dishonest. Hygiene is mandatory, and I don’t like people who are lazy. 

What's your one rule after adding a partner to the relationship?

Hope: My one rule - don't forget that I am a woman. 

Lesego: No lies. I can always tell if you have an involvement elsewhere romantically, even if it’s a fling.

What would be the benefit of having a multi-partner relationship?

Hope: Personally, it's more fun. More exploring and de-stressing.

Lesego: As we are a lesbian couple and my partner is a stud and I am a femme, she doesn’t like 50/50. So I will get 50/50 from our other partner since she’s a femme. Also as a traditional healer, there will be days when I'm not around. Our new partner will be there for my original partner.

Is adulting more complicated with multi partners in a relationship?

Lesego: No, adulting with multiple partners is not more complicated at all. You become more free as a person.

Hope: No, it's actually the opposite. 

Does one need a bigger budget?

Lesego: No, not at all. We've all agreed to become one. So, no one should feel the need to be taken care of. 

Hope: Not at all. 

Tune in to Sjola Sonke on Mzansi Magic, DStv Channel 161, every Sunday. Keep an eye out for more details on Mzansi Magic’s social media channels, Facebook, TwitterInstagram, and TikTok